How your Children View Themselves.
Children often view of themselves by comparing themselves to others or by listening to what others have said. When our kids learn to like themselves for who they are and believe that they are unique on purpose, they will begin to have more peace in their life. Asking a few leading questions can help you discover how your children feel about themselves, Then you can direct them to a more healthy viewpoint. Remember, each of your children is uniquely created for a purpose. Encourage them to find it.
If someone was to describe you, what do you think they would say?
Listen for the words they say and consider them. You might say, “well, I would describe you like this”. Use positive words to encourage and begin to paint a picture that brings light and life into your children.
If you were an animal what animal would you be and how would you act?
Beavers are fun and Lions are ferocious. Listen to the words they use as they relate themselves to an animal. A good follow up question would be, how do you see the animal you described getting along with other animals?
If you could change one thing about yourself what would it be?
This is where kids can be critical of themselves. Find ways to encourage them. A good follow up would be to have them tell you how they could change that one thing. Tell them that you want to help them and you love them just the way they are.
As a Sophmore in high school, our daughter Cori began to see how the drama with some of her friends hurt some of the girls in her class. One friend began to think she was not ever going to measure up to the “more popular ones” and started to retreat into isolation.
Cori began to remind her of all of her best qualities by using descriptive words that were positive and life giving. Remember, words matter, they can cut and they can build up. When our kids begin to doubt themselves, we as parents can use words to build them up. When we pour more good words into them, they begin to believe it and then they begin to live it. C2 it!