Expectations can be self-fulfilling. Many times what you plan for or expect is close to what becomes a reality. For example, if you expect something bad will happen it usually does. On the other hand, when you expect something to turn out positive and you keep on working at it with positive expectations, it usually does. Let’s help our children live abundantly and teach them to expect amazing things to happen as they live their lives. Discuss the following questions to begin a conversation about expectations.
How do your expectations influence the outcome of a situation?
I once heard someone make a comparison to the mind and a computer. The statement was “garbage in garbage out”. It’s the same way we think about ourselves and our futures. Positive thinking will usually result in positive outcomes. In a world where so many want to fill us with negative thoughts it’s really important to help our kids be positive thinkers.
How can you expect amazing things to happen?
The truth is that most bad things that happen could have been avoided. We can intentionally bring on either positive or negative things outcomes by our expectations. Having positive expectations is really just a matter of programing our thoughts.
Why do bad things happen and how can they be avoided?
Realistically, taking a look back on the things you worried about or the bad things you thought would happen, most of them never happened. In addition, the bad things that did happen for most of us turned out to be something positive. This is good place to tell of your own experiences as a parent of how something good was a result of what you thought was going to be bad.
Our daughter Cori lives her life with an expectation of abundance. We have watched her seek the best in every situation from her academics, her friends, her career, and now her new life with her husband. She refuses to settle for less because she really does expect amazing. As parents we should also expect amazing for our kids and help them to do the same for every aspect of their lives.