A family who works as a team needs to understand the positions of the team. The roles of each member of the family are important to how they operate as a whole. When each member’s roles are understood by the whole family, harmony and unity can begin to thrive. As the parent, you desire unity and your intentional steps of bringing everyone together around the table is the evidence of your heart’s desire. Let’s turn the table on the family discussion with these revealing questions.
The first response may be made from a sarcastic tone. Go deeper and let them know you truly want to hear from them. Then, listen for the way they see you as the parent. They may reveal that they notice more about what you do for the family in the bigger picture than they acknowledge on a daily basis.
Giving your children a voice will encourage them to share their feelings with the family. They may reveal deeper issues that will require your attention. Listen for indications that bullying or peer pressure may be affecting your children.
How does being a member of this family make your life better?
Explain that families have a great purpose. In addition to providing the necessities of food, shelter, education, a family incubates the understanding of harmony, prosperity, and justice. Listen to what your children like about being a part of your family then use the opportunity to impart to them how working together can make a difference.
These questions provide a platform for your children to hear themselves talk. In other words, as they respond to these questions, they may be facetious at first and talk about all the superficial things they don’t like to do like cleaning their room, brushing their teeth, and going to school. As they listen to themselves, they may realize there are more important things to consider. These questions are designed to open up the table for deeper discussions. You are taking deliberate steps to allow your children to be honest and transparent. The foundations being laid will give them the freedom to share their hearts when they go through difficult times.