Do You Feel Safe?
The feeling of being safe is an emotion you want to understand from your children. When you pick your children up from school or day care and ask, “How was your day?” you do not expect them to tell you if they were safe or not. However, you most likely are concerned whether or not your children feel safe so use the following conversations starters to find out.
What makes you feel safe at school?
You want your children to feel safe. This question may seem leading but you will get a better response with an open-ended question like this instead of simply asking if they feel safe. This type of questions requires more than a shrug and if they do not feel safe their answer should reveal that as well. By bringing up the topic and allowing him/her to share, you have begun to help deal with the emotion and maybe even solve the issue.
What makes you feel safe at home?
Reminding your child that safety is important to you will help him or her feel safe more often. You want to cultivate the feeling of being safe. So, listen to the response given without any negative reply. Part of cultivating a safe environment is encouraging them that their voice in the matter of safety is very important.
Where do you feel most safe?
The response your child gives to this final question will help you foster a safer environment. Make sure you show your appreciation for the candor in your child’s replies and tell him or her that you want them to feel safe and will help him or her any way you can.
Now that you have listened to where your child feels safe and when he or she does not, you put yourself in a better position to help them with their feelings of being safe or not. You are the parent and it is up to you to help them feel safe and now you understand more about how they feel in this area. Be intentional to follow up with any issues that may come to light as a result of this conversation. C2it and be blessed.