Do feelings matter?
All of us have emotions that can determine how we feel and how we will interact with others. Emotions also influence how our day appears to go. These emotions can be both good and bad depending on what is happening around us or what has happened to us in the past. It is important to understand our own emotions, but it is equally important to understand, or at least empathize, with the emotions of others by considering how they may be feeling. This is one of the best parts of being a friend; being happy when they are happy or being sympathetic or when they need it. Helping our kids to care about others feelings can change someone’s day or maybe even their life. Here are a few questions to open up a conversation about caring for others feelings.
How do you know when others are feeing happy or sad?
Your kids may just have some recent examples of how others are dealing with their own emotions and feelings. Ask them to give you examples and listen to whom they may be talking about. It might just be someone they are close to who may be having an influence in them.
How have you seen your friends handle their emotions and feelings?
This question may give you some insight as to how healthy or unhealthy their friends deal with emotions and feelings. Some friends may get mad or act out in ways that are not good. Ask you kids how they should handle emotions and feelings in certain situations. Hopefully they will be able to give examples for you to know what is going on in their head or in their heart.
Do you know we are here for you?
Telling your kids that you want to celebrate with them when it’s time to celebrate and be there when they are feeling down or sad is important. This opens the door to healthy interaction as a family and shows your love for them.
When feeling and emotions go unchecked they can become extremely unhealthy which may lead to acting out in a very unhealthy way. Even though our kids may seem to have it all figured out and are able to handle the pressures of life or the drama at school, it is important to listen and watch for how our kids are doing with their feeling and emotions.