Favorite First Memory
Life is a series of “Firsts” that should be celebrated. Celebrate your family’s favorite firsts with these conversation starters. You will not only get a good laugh, but you will also be expanding your children’s ability to remember while at the same time improving their ability to deal with negative feelings. Negative memories are usually easier to access, so build up positive memories to help increase feelings of security, calm, and social acceptance.
What has been your favorite “First Day”?
First days come right after last days so listen to what your child discerns as a new beginning. Always lead the conversation into optimistic topics. Discussing the first day of summer is much more positive than celebrating the last day of school because school will begin again in a few short months and you really want that first to be celebrated as well. Guide the conversation with some of your own favorite first days.
What is the first birthday present your remember opening?
Birthday celebrations are some of the highest points in our children’s year. Reminiscing the very first present will most likely bring up several favorites through the years. Encourage your child to think back as far as they can to their first memory of a birthday present. Research shows that recalling positive memories improves the emotional state. Since recalling negative memories is easier for our brains, this conversation will actually help your child in many positive ways and even improve mental health.
What is the first joke or riddle you remember telling?
A great part of dinner conversations is joke or riddle telling. If your family has a history of sharing comedy around the table this question is sure to spark laughter and may set off a competitive rant of comedy routines. Feel free to limit the time if homework is pending but ensure your family that your “night at the improve” session can continue later.
Memory is a powerful tool. With this conversation starter you have helped everyone in your family improve memory. More importantly, you have provided a way for your children to nurture a positive experience and that has been proven to help their brain’s capacity to default to the positive instead of the negative. By deliberately triggering positive memories, you are encouraging healthier habits that will lead to a healthier life. C2it and be blessed.