Do You Like Yourself?
Self-image defines how your children see their abilities, appearance, and personality; it becomes the mental picture of yourself. Since self-image, by definition, is the result of how your children see themselves it is resistant to change unless the judgment of themselves changes. Your children’s unique and personal experiences have molded their self-image. As a parent, you desire a positive self-image for each of your children. Let these conversation starting questions help you identify each child’s view of themselves and provide the information you need to help encourage them and improve on their opinions.
What is your most outstanding ability?
Give them a few moments to consider the question a do not be too hasty to help them answer. In fact, refrain from answering for them. If necessary provide a definition of what you mean by following up with, “what do you think you do well?”, or “what are your unique talents?”. Do not allow other children to interrupt with their idea of what their sibling does well. This question is meant to be introspective and to provide an opportunity to improve self-esteem.
What is your most attractive attribute?
Attractiveness is not only physical, but it can be their charm as well and not merely based on appearance. For example, shy, approachable, and demonstrative are attributes that are not physical yet easily observable when you meet a new person. As a parent, look for how easily it is for each child to come up with their response and if it is difficult for them to express positive attributes about themselves. You may want to make a note to revisit the topic individually with each one of them at a later time according to their answers.
How would you describe your personality?
You will know quite quickly who is shy and who is outgoing just by the length and eagerness of their answers. Keep the conversation positive. Your role is to ensure that everyone around the table respects the one providing their answer so everyone gets a chance to share. There is no wrong answer because even if one of your children describes themselves contrary to the way you or others sees him or her, their perception is their reality.
Ponder all the responses in your heart and use what you learn during this conversation to encourage your children to think well of themselves.
C2it and be blessed!