The Noise of a Happy Family
Have you ever closed your eyes and listened to your family? You may hear kids wrestling with one another, music in a back bedroom and the laughter of the imagination of kids playing together. What if you closed your eyes and heard nothing? Recently, after an Easter get together, one mom said, “Listen to all this fun!” I asked her what she meant and she said, “This is the sound of a happy family”. We both just looked around and smiled back at each other in agreement. Later that evening, when everyone had left, Bill and I recounted the day and began to miss all the noise. Not just any noise, but the noise of a happy family. Have you noticed that silence is rarely a sign of a happy family? Here are a few questions to encourage healthy, and happy noises with your children as you set the atmosphere of a happy family.
When is noise in the home good?
Tell them that you love to hear them laugh and play and that it brings joy to your heart. Tell them that your family’s home is a place of love and joy and it is best demonstrated with healthy noises.
When is noise not appropriate?
There is a time when it’s appropriate to keep the noise down or to even have silence. This is normal when you need to respect someone who needs rest or maybe studying for a test or when the family is watching a show together. Having the right balance of noise is good for every family.
What are happy or joyful noises in our family?
See if you can get your kids to identify what good healthy noises are for your family and encourage them when you hear them. Can you imagine what their reaction would be if you stopped them during a period of joyful noises and asked them to listen and then tell them how much you love the noise? This could be a real game changer with your kids and in controlling the right time for noises.
Helping your children identify healthy noises and the appropriate times for noise and silence will lead them into more happiness. It will also provide you with a more intentional way to encourage and discourage the noise levels in your home. You may even find that you begin to enjoy the noises of your happy family even more after this conversation around your dinner table.