Not a Perfect Parent? Try This.
If you’re like us you have had many moments where you felt like you were failing at a being a good parent. The kids or even the culture seemed to win over what we wanted as a family. In our minds it was supposed to look like this; more peace, joy, connection, respect and a whole lot less drama. What it looked like at the end of the day was almost a physical wrestling match, but most certainly a mental wrestling match over the ideal parent/child relationship.
We have found that getting back to the winning side of the match really took small degrees of intentionality. In other words, it was the little things at first that began to make the biggest impact in our homes and with our children. When things seemed to get out of balance we had to make some changes to bring more stability back to the table.
For us, we liken this shift to a potter and his pottery wheel. When the clay is on the table at first and the pottery wheel begins to spin, the clay is wobbly. In order for the potter to make his bowl, cup or vase, they had to get the clay to be centered on the pottery wheel and then begin other techniques to make what was in the vision when they began. It was the bringing things back into balance that made the difference. A small change it seems, but without it, the outcome would be very different.
For us as parents, we believe one simple change can make the biggest impact in our families, and that one small change is eating together as a family on a regular basis. Most of what is required to make this happen is already happening, such as the eating part and the time it takes to eat. The change is doing it together. Many families with extremely busy schedules tell us that that they eat together as a whole family unit only twice a week. Many will also admit that this happens not at home but in a restaurant as they navigate the schedule of school, work and kid’s activities.
The shift that will make the biggest difference is making the decision as a family to eat together at home, at the family table at least 3 to 4 time per week. This one intentional shift will begin to bring the wobble in your family back into balance as you eat together and connect together as a family. Your home and your dinner table is where you as the parent can begin to listen and talk to your children about what their day was like, what they are dealing with, what they are afraid about and what they dream about. The family table can begin to eliminate distractions and bring about intentional conversation. We were created to connect as a family and your family table is the best place to restore this process.
I know you are busy and you don’t have time to prepare and cook a meal like your family wants. FreshTake has already thought about this for you, mom and dad. The creators of these amazing dinnertime meals wanted to make it easier for you to be successful at your kitchen table by preparing several quality, chef prepared meals for your family. All you have to do is stop by your fresh deli case at your favorite grocery store and choose from several choices your family is sure to enjoy. Just take it home and prepare it in your oven or microwave, throw in a salad and your family is ready to have a sit-down amazing time together eating delicious food.
Bring your family together at your table and connect over a FreshTake meal. Believe us, it’s the simple choices like eating together on a regular basis that will bring about great change in your parenting. Be intentional.