Passivity – The Enemy to Parenting
Social media and news everywhere is filled with stories that concern you as parents. Who would have ever thought we would be dealing with issues like we are today; it is really a scary world we live in. What is important to understand is that it’s not just you that’s hearing or watching the news; your children are as well.
Who could have ever imagined that you would drop off your children at school and pray for their safety as you watched them leave your car? Your kids are probably wondering if something horrific has happened in other schools will it happen in theirs. They have concerns, fears and maybe emotions that may or may not be being expressed in a healthy way. That’s why you must be more intentional today as a parent than you have ever been before.
What we have learned over the last few years is many parents don’t know themselves how to deal with the pressures being waged on their families, their marriages and especially their children. The messages our kids hear and watch ever minute of every day is having an impact on our kids but the question is how much?
What are they believing and how are they dealing with it all? So much of what they see and hear is probably not even fully true, or not even true at all, but still they have to filter it and decide on what they are going to believe. So like many parents on social media, they begin to debate the issues in order to have an opinion or they just cave into whatever their friends believe.
As a parent, this is no time to be passive. We must engage in the war being waged against our families and our children because as we have seen the bad news and the bad influences are not just going to go away. Being passive and not having a plan to help your kids through the information war or the social influences directed at our children is not a good plan.
Being passive in your parenting includes not having boundaries, defined family values, having family dinners to engage and listen, and having family meetings, intentional conversations and spending time with them. Not doing these things in today’s world is being passive and it will result in unfavorable consequences for many of our families. What all of our families need is a plan of action and then the willingness and the heart to carry it out. Your kids need and want you to give them boundaries. They want and need you to teach them about values. They do want and need you to listen to them, talk to them and spend time with them. This is what we call parenting and, yes, you did sign up for this when you had your children.
It’s time for us all to parent up and be more intentional in raising our children. The rewards are great and well worth the efforts. I can’t imagine anything more rewarding than seeing your children have great self esteem and confidence in who they are with a belief system of values taught by, none other than, their parents. And when it’s time to release them into the world they may even change it because they had a parent or parents who took responsibility to be the parent. No one said it was going to be easy but your children need you now more than ever.