A Time to Mourn and a Time to Laugh
Emotions can build up in all of us and knowing it’s okay to share our feelings in a safe place is not only an important release but is also needed for our emotional, mental, and physical health. To mourn and to laugh is part of a healthy lifestyle. The place where our children can learn to share and express their feelings and deep emotions is in the home. Helping your children deal with their emotions will give them security and peace in their hearts. These questions will open the door to help your children express their emotions.
What makes people sad?
Their answers may be an opener to something they are sad about and want to share more. Encourage them to talk deeper about what sadness is and how it affects us all. Be specific and ask them what is going on around them that make them sad.
What makes people laugh?
Laughter can come out of nowhere as a spontaneous event happens or it can be something that someone said. Help your kids learn to laugh by telling them funny stories about your childhood and tell them it’s okay to laugh about situations that are funny but not when it may hurt someone. When someone is hurt or sad, it may not be a time for laughter but a time for understanding and compassion.
When do people mourn?
This question might take your conversation to things that are happening around the world where there might be great devastation or loss of life. Families were created to morn together and support one another when such a time comes. Help your children know that in your home you will laugh together and morn together because that’s what families are for.
All of life is filled with deep emotions as it ebbs and flows. Knowing in advance, as a child, that there will be situations where you will both mourn and laugh will minimize anxiety when the unexpected happens. Your children should know that it is more than just okay to express their emotions with family and loved ones. The ability to express these deep emotions can keep their heart healthy as they deal with whatever life throws their way. As author and teacher Devi Titus says, “Home is not just where the heart is, but where the heart is formed.” As parents you can help them form a heart that is compassionate and understanding, yet strong enough to overcome life’s hard experiences.