What is parenting?
My grandmother often said to me, “I’m not raising children, I’m raising responsible adults”. This statement expressed her goal in parenting, or in her case, grand-parenting, as she had an active role in raising not only me, but many other kids in her neighborhood as well. She was known as Gramma Vickers to most of the people in her small town, and she encouraged everyone with a passionate purpose. Likewise, it is important to help our children understand that we parent toward a goal of values centered toward the same result as my grandmother — to raise young adults. Here are some questions to coach your children into an understanding of your responsibility as their parents.
What is parenting?
This may seem like an easy question with an easy answer, but it is actually very complex. Parenting is much more than simply having children and feeding them, and it becomes a tremendous blessing as we watch our children grow and find their purpose or destiny. Help your children understand that you have a responsibility and that you take it seriously to parent well.
What things does a good parent do for their children?
Be prepared for their answers to be funny at first, but encourage them to seriously consider and respond to the question. For example, a good parent does not always say yes and do everything that their children may want. A good parent understands that they are a parent first and a friend second. A good parent makes decisions because they love their children and keeps the goal of parenting a priority.
What happens when a child always gets their way?
As your children answer, encourage them not to judge actual cases of spoiled kids that they may know but to instead consider the potential consequences of parenting scenarios where the children always get what they want.
Being intentional in your parenting will not only bless your children, but you, as the parent, will experience great joy as your children grow into loving, caring, respectful, and productive adults. It might help you in your parenting if you can write down the values you want to see in your children and talk to them about your choice of words and why they matter. C2 it!