What is your Favorite Gift?
Remember when you were a kid and gifts would begin to appear under the tree? You hoped one was a Rubik’s Cube or Cabbage Patch Kid. What gift really impacted you as a kid? Is there one that stands out in your memory more than any other? Chances are it isn’t one of the trendy items of your era. In fact, it may not be the actual gift at all, but a memory that surrounded it or the person who gave it to you. Use these questions to discover what your children really consider important in gift giving.
What is your favorite gift and why?
The actual item may not be the most important element of their memory. Listen to the extenuating circumstances like where he or she was when the present was received, what was going on in your family at the time, and even who gave the gift.
If you only receive one gift this Christmas, what would you want it to be?
Encourage them to think “outside the box” and to consider gifts that cannot be wrapped and placed under the tree. Tell them to put money and time aside and really think about what gift would really give them joy. You may be surprised at what they share. If it is a visit from a family member, you know that relationships are important to them. Maybe they would like to GIVE a gift instead of receiving one. If this is the case, praise them for their generosity and discuss how you could actually help make their wish come to pass.
Why do you think gifts are wrapped?
Traditionally, we wrap presents before presenting them. The giver of the gift desires to hide the identity until just the right moment. This has been the practice since ancient times. (However, it became much easier when adhesive tape was invented in 1930) Encourage your children to consider why we like to surprise the recipient of the present as it is opened instead of simply handing them the item unwrapped.
We all enjoy gifts. As you discover the ones your children favor the most, it may be evident that cost and popularity had little bearing on the impact they made on them. Use this new knowledge to help you make wise decisions for your gift giving in the future. Ultimately, you may change the traditions of your family to include more memorable gifts such as a family experiences or trips.