What’s Going On?
What is your child’s biggest concern?
Do you really want to know “what’s goin’ on”? Do you ever wonder what is going on inside your child’s head? These conversation starting questions will give you the answer; but there is a catch. You, as the parent, need to refrain from immediately responding to your child’s answer. These questions are meant to initiate an honest reply. If you cut them off or react with shock and awe they will not be encouraged to continue the dialogue. Simply nod your head and urge them to continue in a very calm manner. This lack of response may be difficult to muster at first, but be assured if you want your children to open up to you now and in the future, it is required.
What is the most concerning topic on social media today?
There it is — you have just opened up a topic they are thinking about whether they say anything or not. Do not be afraid to let several seconds of silence go by. If your child is reluctant to answer, assure him or her that nothing is off limits and you are genuinely interested. Then wait for him or her to make the next sound.
What do you think about that?
If you have a talkative child you may have already received the response to this question. But, if you have a more timid child, he or she will need some coaxing to complete the whole idea. If you encouraged them by not falling off the chair when they mentioned the outrageous event or trend, you will receive more by asking them their thoughts on the topic.
How can we/I help you respond to this concern?
Here you go! Every parent wants to know how they can help their child overcome adversity, or rise above the drama that can distract him or her from what is best for them. You set the ground work for this response by your reactions to the first two questions. As they respond, consider how you can come along side them and encourage them through whatever is going on. Your child wants and needs your involvement and they have just told you how you can parent up.
You are uniquely qualified to parent your children. Be confident in your important role in their lives. You need to also be intentional with following up with them in a few days or weeks to see how things are going with the topic addressed here. When you ask opened ended questions you will stay informed about what concerns your child. C2it and be blessed!