Your Children’s Music Matters
There are many outside influences that shape the views, attitudes and even the behaviors of our children. Music is known to connect deeply to our children’s identity development and is second to only movies and video games to the branding of images in the mind. On the other hand, your children who play an instrument or are involved in band, choir or after school musicals can have healthy effects on identity and behavior. Asking your children about how they view music may give you some clues as to what or who is influencing them.
What is your favorite band or artist?
For many parents we won’t recognize the artist or band and that’s ok. Encourage them to tell you why. Take a mental note and look them up after dinner. Look at the lyrics of the music and see what they might be suggesting to your child as they listen privately through their headphones.
If you could be an instrument what would you be and why?
Listen for how the answers may influence their moods. Listen also to what may interest them in playing an instrument and encourage them. Getting them involved in playing an instrument or involved in music may be extremely positive and have a lasting positive impact on their life.
Do you have friends that listen to music that you feel is harmful or inappropriate?
If they say no and are defensive you may discover they are listening to the same music. If they have a position on bad forms of music, this is another great place to encourage and tell them you are proud of them knowing that some forms of music are harmful.
One father, whose daughter listened to music for several hours a day, was shocked to learn that her choice of music was not a part of the family’s values. After talking to her and encouraging her to make better choices he noted her mood changed almost overnight. Parents, take time to discover before reacting. Your children may just be looking for boundaries in this area and will welcome your loving input.